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Teenage Roller Coaster Challenge

teenageYesterday I was wondering whether I should write about personal stuff on my blog or move towards more ‘useful’ or ‘practical’ topics, and had some lovely comments from my readers which made me realise that there is nothing wrong with ‘assorted musings’ aka ‘random rants’. I am very grateful for those comments because I really need to get something off my chest and there is no place like a blog to do it. I can have a good rant about whatever got to me and feel better straight after. Done and dusted.

So what is my burning issue today?

Same as most of the days – children!  Whoever came up with the saying ‘small children – small problems, big children – big problems’ got it spot on.

I’ve always thought I am a fairly sensible mother and not in a market for parenting courses, but at times I am not so sure about that any more.  Keeping the children on straight and narrow was quite uncomplicated until my eldest hit teenagehood.  Oh boy, this is a completely different game altogether. Forget warning expecting parents about sleepless nights, endless nappy changing and teething. Tell them about the teenage years instead, they will come sooner than expected.

We have a bit of a teenage roller coaster at the moment.

My eldest bounces between being a lovely child and a grumbling rebel, with everything possible in-between.  One minute he is happy, another minute he gets emotional or stroppy and argumentative.  When he gets emotional, half of the time he doesn’t even know why.  Today, he’s had a tantrum about the volume of school work he had to do and put more energy into having a strop about it than into getting his work done.  No wonder it took him forever.  I did tell him more than once that he could have done everything ten times over and had his play time if only he focused on task at hand… but he was by far too preoccupied with having a strop, so it was like talking to a wall.  An angry wall for that matter.  To give him credit, though, he did realise he was being silly and apologised afterwards.

I suppose this is all down to hormones flooding his blood stream right now, but knowing this does not make it any easier to handle.  Sometimes it feels like he’s read a book on ‘How To Be a Teenager and Drive Your Parents Insane’ and decided to implement it in practice.

My patience is stretched very thin at times.

I’ve started practising counting to ten before I say anything and I am on the verge of taking up yoga or meditation!  The worst thing is that my younger son has started copying his older brother and I am starting to get attitude from him as well. They were so much easier when they were babies – yes, I was sleep deprived, but as long as they were fed and changed, they were happy and full of cuddles.  I do miss those days when a cuddle with mummy was on top of their favourite things to do and they wanted me to go everywhere with them.  These days it is ok to have a cuddle at home every now and then, but in public I am supposed to keep a sensible distance, so that they don’t get embarrassed in front of  their friends!  Can you imagine?

There, I feel a bit better now.

A few deep breaths and I will be as good as new.

Do you have teenage children, or any  children, who are trying your patience?  Which aspect of parenting do you find most challenging?  Please leave a comment if you would like to share and get things off your chest.  Or, if you prefer, please visit my Facebook page and perhaps we can have a collective disgruntled parents rant over there, with a big virtual ‘group hug’ at the end to make us all feel better!



7 thoughts on “Teenage Roller Coaster Challenge

  1. Hi Patti, thank you for visiting and sharing. I think yours is a perfect description – ‘drama written all over them’ – that’s what it feels like with my son. And yes, schoolwork has been invented solely for the purpose of ruining his life 😉 It is really tricky for me as a parent to persist and do/make him do what I know is right long-term when I know how much he resits it sometimes. It’s good to know I am not the only being driven crazy!

  2. I don’t have children but I just past my teenage years. It’s true that when they are 16-23 this is the time where patience is a a virtue. But the following years, things will get better 😉

    1. Thank you, Meck, I appreciate you writing-in 🙂 . So, from what you are saying, I still have a few years of relative madness to go through and things will get better – I’ll hold you to that 😉 It maybe worth me taking up that yoga class in the meantime..

  3. Oh boy, can I relate! The good news is that they DO grow out of it eventually and then our nice young men return and we can stand them once again. Hang in there mama! There will be light at the end of the tunnel. I promise. 😉

    1. Thank you Brenda for your moral support, it is hard sometimes to recognise our once lovely children, isn’t it… I’ll focus on believing that ‘it shall pass’, hopefully it’s not going to be too many years! 😉

  4. I am visiting from the Ultimate Blog Challenge. So I am the mother of 4 – 3 teenage sons and 1 pre-teen daughter. We have an interesting time at our home. The oldest is 18 and he still is at home. Right now he tends to be my least dramatic – maybe it is because he has crossed to the other side so to speak. My next two are about to turn 16 and about to turn 14. These two have drama written all over them. In fact I could have written your post. Schoolwork is a daily challenge here. Love what you had to say. I can so relate to the idea of them reading a book about how to drive their parents crazy. Here’s hoping the drama level decreases for you!

    1. Hi Patti, thank you for visiting and sharing. 🙂 I think yours is a perfect description – ‘drama written all over them’. This is exactly what it’s like with my son right now. Schoolwork has been invented solely for the purpose of ruining his life. It feels tricky for me as a parent to persist and do/make him do what I know is right and good for him long-term, when I know how much he resents it sometimes. But parenting is not a popularity contest, is it… 🙂 It’s reassuring to know this is all normal, thank you!

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